Screw the exhaustive list of New Year’s resolutions! This year pick just one word. Pick a word you can focus on every day, all year long. A word that sums up who you want to be, how you want to live, what you want to manifest in the world.
If you’re liking the idea of just one word and not a recycled resolution that leaves you feeling like a failure, keep reading. (Let’s be real: the gym is stinky and crowded until mid-March; giving up sugar means no cheesecake, ice cream or cookie dough; getting organized requires a lot of work. You get the idea here, right?)
If you’re wondering, my word is sonder. Yes, it’s a real word (just ask The Dictionary of Obscure Sorrows). It sums up of a multitude of other words that I’m drawn to: kindness, love, peace, blah, blah, blah. It’s the antithesis of the narcissist, selfie attitude of today.
Here are some simple steps to help identify your word:
1). A year from now, what would you be most excited about having accomplished?
2). Which of these do you most desire to feel in 2019?
Fearless and determined
Satisfied and peaceful
Driven and accomplished
Genuine and trustworthy
Joyful and full of life
Fit and healthy
Faithful and committed
3). Consider the words below. Cross out all the words that don’t resonate with you. Continue until you have just four or five words remaining.
Strength, Joy, Love, Risk, Empower, Learn, Faith, Mindfulness, Growth, Courage, Perspective, Present, Embrace, Balance, Action, Sacrifice, Change, Purpose, Create, Simplify, Breathe, Slow, Adapt, Battle, Push, Today, Confidence, Believe, Commit, Minimize, Uplift, Soar, Focus, Appreciate, Peace, Connect, Brave, Trust, Transition, Listen, Invest, Transform, Celebrate, Imagine, Dare.
4). Head over to thesaurus.com and look up the handful of words you have chosen. The thesaurus will have a ton of words way better than those I listed. Select two or three that really stick with you. Let them marinate for a while (like a good steak). Okay, this part is very important… go out and do something you really LOVE. When you return, see if one word really stands out. If not, let it marinate overnight. Keep going until you find a single word. (By the way, if you can’t think of anything that you really LOVE to do, stop here! Your word for the year should probably be discover.)
Even Oxford has a word of the year. Well, it’s a bit of a different concept since their word sums up the year. If you’re wondering, Oxford’s word is toxic.
Most importantly, please remember that a word is just a word. There’s no pressure. No “win or lose”. No “success or failure”. It’s just a word, 4-10 letters, or more if you’re an overachiever (that was 12).
So Happy New Year to you all! Here’s to a fabulous 2019, and to a word better than toxic!
Sharon and the Hero Dog